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Hey to u all! I am back! and this time with maybe something "politically incorrect"... Actually if I penned down all those things going in my head right now, the post will shock you(since my persona is generally sweet most of the times :p) But a few lessons which I have learnt through experience( some of them torturous, some exhausting!) Still I have come out on the other side and haven't lost faith in humanity yet ;)

Usually I am a patient person with the world, however I don't know why today I feel very irritated with few people who I called 'friends' for a short time. It's not that I am still bothered or something but just haven't found the closure yet. I haven't vented out my feelings and these people have no idea about what I feel. I don't think this post will be published on the date I have scripted it, but hopefully in near future.

' Apna dimag mjhe dede thaakur' types (Emotional/clingy People)- Remeber Dementors from HP? This category reminds me strongly of them. They used to suck souls/ These people will suck your peace. They used to take away all the happiness/ These people will cry and cry so much that u won't even remember if there is anything to left happy about.
One way to handle these type of people is stay away!! other is to reduce contact to a minimum- but it won't really matter much cos she/he will reach you anyways. They are those types who will blame/cry on you for every circumstance which is not going their way.
They will make you feel guilty or try their hardest in making you believe that you are only thinking about yourself. You won't even realize when you are in that trap and may commit something which they will use again as a weapon to make you feel guilty/ try their hardest....(Get the drift? Yes, its the firsthand experience talking ;))

(Blah blah blah blah)^infinity type- Never ask these people what's going on in their life cos they will bore you describing scene by scene happening of a relatively uninteresting event. Kindly talk to them if in urgent need of sleeping pills without any side effects.

'Chicken came first' type- I am never against holding a opinion, but some people start arguing on every minor irrelevant thing! It is not only irritating but times like these that I wish if I could just hit something on their heads to shut them up!( and ofcourse run away ;)


P.S- This is actually a very old post now, at that time maybe I was surrounded with some of these people (I don't even remember now)  I am on a spree now, let me post it ;) Soon you will get all the real life action and thoughts as I am back!

P.P.S.- I found it funny!

Five Basic necessities of my life!

1. Family!!
There is one saying which I olwaz quote
DNA is least of what makes a family!
you can shout, scream, love, hurt, annoy, irritate, amuse, hate, pamper, behave weirdly yet they will somehow find a reason to love you or apparently find no reason to hate you and you know that is rare..(sorry correction) ...extremely rare!

2. Friends!!
Having one friend whom you can call in the middle of night and just tell her (in my case its her! ;)) every damn thing that went wrong and just telling her gives so much comfort that you really don't care what her suggestions or advices are....having a friend with whom you can laugh limitlessly on all the things in the world.....having a friend with whom you share a bonding which can't be spoken of in words is another rare (correction again!) a very rare life gift.....

3. A Hobby!!
Yes that's right...and in my case it is dancing and reading books ...believe me they are more effective than Asprin!! cultivating a hobby not only efficiently utilizes your time but also makes you grow as a person through many interesting ways directly or indirectly

4. A Goal!!
VERY FEW people have a goal in this world...and for fulfilling the goal you do not need right people knowledge, right time......... you need one thing: Passion...everything else will follow sooner or later...

5. Mistakes!!
Did a mistake, realized it ...GOOODD!! few people in this world own up mistakes as they are busy blaming people, circumstances and everything under the sun literally....but just dont forget it, learn your lessons and repeat it again!!:P
Also who says you should learn from your own mistakes, learn from mistakes and they necessarily shuldnt be yours...and that is what is known as wisdom and the former is called experience!;)

Flip a coin!

We have to do this every single day, every single minute and every single second of our life: make a decision.There are easy decisions and there are tough decisions and then there are nerve wrecking, and mind boggling decisions. And it is the third kind of decisions, when every logic goes for a toss, when all the questions are going in a Brownian motion inside our minds: Could I, would I, do I, if I, should I.

A straight head makes life simpler, yet possessing one is not so simple.
I have been plagued for a long time with so many decisions when all my senses are involved in a civil war with each other. When my heart says something and my mind completely annihilates my "logical" reasoning. When questions are plenty and answers are hopelessly scarce.

Fortunately and unfortunately, we are not rational beings. Our decisions are guided by our minds, environment, and inferred and implied meanings of life in general. So how do we take that one important decision that might change the course of living, that eventually may go wrong but in that moment it was the best decision we took, or that one decision that was so unique and unusual that people guffawed at our methods but we just came through all the hurdles shining brightly and beautifully.

So in these cases, I will suggest you one extremely simplistic approach which I adopted recently: To quote Matthew Francis-Landau:

"When you have to make a hard decision, flip a coin. 

Woah! wait! I am not asking you to surrender yourself to the realms and bounds of fate and destiny.

But then Why? Because when that coin is in the air, you suddenly know what you're hoping for....."

A rise from the ashes...

And just when u thought that this blog is surely dead, I rise again from the ashes (tada!) showing my head and chirping again like a phoenix...
You might ask where I was all these months( speaking directly from my fantasy world where you visited this place every week religiously, pining away, hoping for an update). The truth is there was so much happening that didn't know what to write...since past one year I have been staying away from home (ya, i am a big girl now :p ) and carrying on my own.. Learnt to cook( thankfully the cooking genes aren't lost out on me) learnt so many things about people, how to pretend( apparently an important thing, used in dealing with 99% of the population..1% you call family and friends :)  basically I have grown up, though still a lot to go..but a start it is!

It all started exacly an year ago, when I decided to go for a corporate training in Trivandrum. I was the sole one from my college, didn't know anybody and knew the upcoming journey will be a different experience. I just wasn't ready to go away from my home though( it is difficult once you spend 23 years of your life eating home food, outside food becomes less and less palatable), also the thought that you are going alone and the familiar faces are not going to be there just makes you a litle apprehensive. Anyway, it turned out to be a rollercoaster which I thoroughly enjoyed.
The most knowledge that you gain while living alone is not about the world, it is about "yourself". It acts as a mirror in showing you your true personality,
 limits, patience, and character. It throws you into a world where nobody knows you and tests your ability to form bonds, to hold out on your own. Whether you are a person everybody likes to be around or someone from whom everyone runs away. As it turned out, it taught me a number of things about myself. My positive points, things I need to work upon, it was an education I needed in order to truly know myself.

I made a few special friends, some passing acquaintances, and met a great many people who were just there at that place and time to be a part of my story.
So keep checking this resurrected blog as I share more about my experiences. :-)

P.S.- After seeing the enthralling beauty of Kerala, I can surely say it is definitely God's own Country :) 

A Sparkle is all I need!

Waiting for a smile, which will last forever
awaiting for a hand, whose hold won't waiver
Something on my mind, you have to come near and find
as I have been caught amidst the running thoughts
Some feelings are lost forever, some battles yet to be over
A game left to be defined, as it is all in the mind
The water is getting murky, cannot see the end
A blind jump, a leap of faith,
courage needed to fight the fiend 
A time will come maybe far than near
when the clouds will clear, a silver lining appears
But the heart whispers in greed
A sparkle is all I need!


P.S- After a long absence, here I am with my first attempt at poetry(not counting some crazy limericks written ages ago). I just could not break from the limerick rhyming, so if you are a real poetry fan then please don't judge :p

A few Good Men

Me: (asking the tenth auto wala in half an hour): Bhaiya, Pusa

Autowalla: Baithiye

Me: :O... Kitna loge

Autowalla: Meter

Me: :O ... acha

He stops his auto, comes out, helps in keeping my luggage.

On the way....

Autowalla: yeh jo saamne auto khade the, kitna le rahe the

Me: 180 rupai <*double the amount*> and baakiyon ne mana ker dia..

Autowalla: pata tha mujhe..yahi log dilli ke autoes ko badnaam kerte hay..pata nahi auto kyu chalate h jab savari ko nahi le jaana hota...

Madam! maine aj tak kissi be savari ko mana nahi kia...n main Bihar ka hoon..yahi log Bihariyon ko b badnam kerte hay...

Me: :O..hmmmm...

I sit silently pondering a few good men do exist.....

ps: he was actually funny to watch too. He stopped his auto just to click photograph of a group of peacocks and peahens!! and also bowed his head while passing by a Temple...

pps: n yea i asked him...bhaiya main ap ki phto le loon..mujhe blog main daalni h!!!

Autowalla: :O....!!

DIRTY Picture!!!really?!!

Vidya Balan has a belly which could give Adnan Sami's belly (read the -before-diet-image) a competition, the actors have looks which could make Ranvir Shorey look handsome, the script has dialogues which could embarrass family people, Storyline "Fashion" retold with a sorry ending.....yet the movie somewhere struck a chord...somehow it made me forget my cussing for IIT Delhi and its life...somehow it evoked hope against hope....somehow it inspired me to dream and believe...............and above all somehow it made me laugh to an extent of hurting my stomach muscles!!!

It is one hindi movie which I could recommend to my parents despite all its flaws because it taught me the following (through the most comical and sarcastic dialogues and their apt timings....)

1. Be real but do not forget to dream..............

2. Life is not hard but u can make it with ur reactions

3. It reminded me that I am still 22 and I have my whole life in front of me to experiment learn and succeed.....

4. It gave me food for thought to ponder upon which is alwayz a cliche but still I never realized it: Believe in your self when no one else does; never feel lonely when u are alone coz u have urself wid u; u might initially make mistakes in makin friends but do not regret coz they won't make it to ur future; and actually never regret any mistake.......

In short

Dream, Desire and Devote all your time, vigor and optimism to it

ps....never judge a movie by its trailer!!:PP

pps... emran hashmie breaks his characteristic record by kissing less number of times than vidya and i am talkin about smooches!!:PP