LOVE YOU FOREVER.......... :))

HE IS BACK!!!!

'He' is my brother, who was in the U.S. for past one year, doing his M.S(still 6 months left)...but now he is visiting for 20 days..and you bet I am excited!! :)

There is this saying "You'll never realize the importance of something until it's gone", BUT it doesn't apply for me in this case... I always knew the value of my big brother (even though I didn't tell him then :P)... And also they say "Brothers and Sisters Share A Unique Bond Of Love, Comradery, and Friendship" to which I wholeheartedly agree.

I remember from the time we were kids and did crazy stuff, like he taught me how to jump from the bed when I was 3 or 4(I fell and bruised my lips- he got a scolding) or I bit him around that age (I got a scolding). He broke my electric dinosaur that Papa bought from Sweden, I complained to Papa, he got furious with my brother's 'always trying to be a scientist and dismantling things' attitude and bro got a thrashing (I cried for him at that time). Hundred other memories like he bought my first phone, always scolding me for wasting hours on the phone, always being there to solve my Maths and Physics problems, encouraging me to do something worthwhile and not waste my time, teaching me and explaining the concept when I used to panic a day before the exam, giving the BEST ADVICES- which sometimes I followed and most of the times Not *straight face*, never Interfering- always SUPPORTIVE, fighting for me with Papa when he was overprotective and unreasonable, giving me 25% of his salary on my BIRTHDAY's!(Lalalala, I have the BEST BROTHER - I know :P )
And so many other things for which I never said Thank You!( I guess he doesn't need that, but I am still so much Thankful! )

Words aren't enough to express how much he means to me (though have tried it here)...And you know I cried so much when in eighth class Papa shifted my study table(his and mine were adjoining- maybe so I can get inspired) from his room as he was in 12th and needed to study seriously, apparently I used to disturb him (ME!! The most innocent child! :p He used to start all the fights, how did I disturb him!). So you can imagine my plight, when he hopped on the flight and went away so far... (read it as Saat Samundar Paar ;)

It was just AWE(wait for it)SOME!! to grow up with someone like you - someone to lean on, someone to count on... someone to tell on!
And now it is time to cheer cos he is here! :)
So again, I AM SO PROUD OF YOU! 
             n LOVE YOU FOREVER... :))



P.S.- Hoping he would get senty after reading this ;) (It is not unmanly to show emotions u know :P)

P.P.S.- I wish this to be a quote dedicated to me, from him..lol! It's just a quote that I liked - “She is your mirror, shining back at you with a world of possibilities. She is your witness, who sees you at your worst and best, and loves you anyway. She is your partner in crime,your midnight companion, someone who knows when you are smiling, even in the dark. She is your teacher, your defense attorney, your personal press agent, even your shrink. And on some days, she's the reason you wish you were an only child.” -Barbara Alpert
And also this one "“What's the good of news if you haven't a sister to share it?” -Jenny DeVries :)

LET IT GO......

Hey! So hope all of you are preparing to enjoy the upcoming holidays and getting ready to binge on all the sweets (and add a few kilos to your waistline. *evil laugh*) 

So coming back to the point, just ask yourself a simple question "Do you hold grudges?". If the answer is biased in the favor of yes, then it is time to retrospect. If you don;t know how.. then you can try by asking yourself a series of questions like 'Has it done you any good', ' Has it spoiled your mental peace', 'Do you get angry whenever you think about that person' (Note- I am talking about a personal grudge here and not with an animal or some non-living thing, which you just can't help it- e.g if a dog bites you in your childhood and you end up hating dogs... story of my life :-l )

But as a proud ' Never a grudge holder', take it from me a grudge DOES YOU NO GOOD!
It is not only harmful to your mental peace, but it keeps you in the clutches of anger and noxious thoughts. The anger can even make you do regrettable things. So do you really want to carry that much negative energy with you? I don't!!


I have two solutions which always help me out... And they are extremely effective ( That's a personal guarantee :) )

Sometimes you just cannot forget what others have done to you. In serious crimes, the victim obviously has every right to feel all the anger and rabid thoughts swirling in his/her mind. But I do have a better solution - POSING INDIFFERENCE!

There are some situations in life when you feel helpless, you cannot retaliate back to the perpetrator and you have to accept the things as they are. And that is why being indifferent helps! It is called the state of emotionlessness, to the point that you detach yourself from the situation, person - whatever helps. It is not easy, but needs practice and it helps you not to think about anything related to that person, go on with your life in a peaceful way, helps you in finding your own happiness and being a positive person.

The second solution is what you may have heard many times, and hope you do apply it all the time- FORGIVENESS!
I reserve this only for a few- people for whom I care, and  I know in my heart that the mistake wasn't done intentionally. It was probably just the circumstances. And that the other person genuinely cares about me and is really sorry and repentant. I do the best thing you can do- I FORGIVE. Period.

In life, sometimes strangely you can also move on from the first option to the second if the person has/had a value in your life... And you try to be a little understanding of his/her reasons for his/her actions. I have put my faith in someone recently because of that strong connection with the person. And I am hoping for a happy journey.

Hence it's no good to hold a grudge with a person whom you love. And it's only harmful for you to hold a grudge with a person for whom you don't care! Finally,  I would say just one thing 'Let it go...'. It makes you happy and exuberant and most of all LIBERATED! :) 


P.S - And before I forget here is my free advice on Rakshabandhan - * For Girls* - It's YOUR day, don't go easy on your brother's pocket ;)
*For Boys*- Come on! Have a big heart, Give your sweet sister all the gifts you can afford :D And if anybody doesn't have a sister to shower the gifts, feel free to contact me :p

P.P.S- You can listen to this beautiful song (Do pay attention to the lyrics) from Zindagi Naa Milegi Dobara- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rhXYH1L79hk&feature=related while reading the post :)

Don't ask the meaning of Life...Just Go and Define It!!

Ever tried getting drenched in the rain but didn't because of your new, spick and span jeans???????

Ever felt like standing up for yourself but just didn't because you were not ready for the situation???????

The point is never wait for things to happen. You are the creator of your destiny... you are THE child of destiny.............YOU DEFINE YOUR DESTINY...

Just go for the thing what you feel is right at that moment. Stand up against the guy who is rude to the elderly beside you....ask the shopkeeper for a printed receipt.......go for wacky streaking of your hair...........go for tattooing at the weirdest body part....dance and hop in the rain...laugh and howl at the worst joke you have heard......do it because your heart screams at you to do it ......

ps.....Do it now since as you grow older you start carrying baggage with you... baggage of job, baggage of being diplomatic to the shrewdest and most wicked ppl, baggage of dressing professionally, baggage of not being able to speak the truth because your own organization is involved.....!

Do it now since when you wake up next morning you can look at yourself in the mirror with pride, an air of individuality and no regrets because you did precisely what you wanted to do at that moment...!

one black sheep..

"DPS MMS", "IIT Delhi student commits murder" and now...IIT Delhi fresher commits suicide

If the names of the institutions associated would not have been this prestigious, surely the headings would be:

School students create MMS, Engineering student commits murder, Fresher commits suicide

Why do we gain sadistic pleasure when we see prestigious institutes and people falter and fail.

Is it because it is satisfactory that even the most successful can make mistakes so the lesser mortals obviously can go around faltering and committing crime with less guilty and even less conscience.

Is it because we envy them and are just delighted to see their downfall.

The television news and print media exploit this basic mentality of human nature and obnoxiously sideline all other, probably more important news, to gain high TRPs and popularity; sometimes not even trying to go into root causes and creating cock and bull stories to feed and give flames to this growing appetite..

RESULT: The Indian society so notorious for hush-hush, at-your-back gossip starts viewing all the students of the concerned institute in the same light. I have seen uncles and aunties coming to my home when I was going to DPS and in a very muted tone asking my parents whether they haven't heard about the MMS scandel. Fortunately my open minded parents understand and handle these situations very well. But millions don't and I have seen, felt, observed and smelled it.

I just want to stress upon one thing :

There might be a few Black Sheep. Please do not paint the whole institute with the same stroke and brush...

Next AIM- To turn all the lemons into a tasty lemonade!

The time has come to introduce myself. I am the other half of this blog (the silent partner till now..) U can read the introduction about me( My other partner is too lazy to write an introduction for herself :P). Nyways I felt the need and urge to write and here I am in all my glory..  

As my summer hollidays are cumng to an end.. I luk back at the past 2 mnths and realize that working on sumthng that u enjy does fill u with a sense of worth, it gives u pleasure when u complete a task(even though at that time u may crib about why am I the only one doing all the work in a team) but the sense of accomplishment afterward makes u feel grt!!

Okay, I shudn't lead u on nymore.. I didn't do sumthng big yet(like clearing an entrance type big) but still it made me happy and my summer vacations worth it! It was a simple thing actually, I just designed a newsletter for an NGO, and now am working on another one.. The newsletter turned out pretty well, and ergo I am pretty pretty pleased with myself . For the first time I did sumthng useful ( Sum stpd people might disagree on how useful it was, but hey don't u dare spoil my aura :P) other than sitting at home, watching movies, reading buks in my vacations( though that was a gud pastime for the last 2 yrs but it's called 'pastime' for a reason).

I have so many things that I want to do now.. and also I regret the time wasted.. I cud have done so many things!! Like I really wanted to participate in a MUN..but alas! the idea to actually search for it came frm a close frnd( I will give her a nickname soon as she may be mentioned in my posts frequently) when she told me about a MUN happening yesterday. And now is my last year in college( Thank God! Take my advice- research before u enter the rat race of entrances after 12th! U wud hate to end up doing a subject u dislike for 4 yrs! ) and I want to have back the things I lost.. I lost the ability to study seriously ( I can blame it on - I hate the subjects, but nobody will listen to me professionally.. ) So instead of crying out and doing nthng, I think I will give it my all and then have no regrets.. I just lost the enthusiasm in studies, dnt knw how and why.. but the time to suck it up has come.. And I am happy to get the lost feeling back within me!! I feel energised, I feel pumped up! ( Never knew 1 mnth of dng sum 'work' wud change me :-l )  But yaa, I am ready to take on the WORLD!! ( and the shitty things it will give :)   And I promise not to get disheartened now.. As the most rehearsed saying goes.....IF u have the WILL, U will FIND A WAY....

Life larger than life

Was there anytime when you felt you were in your dream world, when you felt like living in a fairy tale; even if just for a moment..



I lived a fairy tale for a full 9 days duration; the beginning was not exactly a fairy tale sort minus the forest scenario!! and a point of difference to be noted here is that my fairy tale didnt require a prince..It didnt require a hero (although there were many suitable options!!;) ).................



The bus stopped near lake Selger (Russia)..we with our wobbly sleep deprived eyes, reached our tents exhausted and tired. The bus journey was a full long 8 hours after a long flight...and slowly the magic swirled itself open...beautiful spacious tents amidst exquisite pine and fir trees. Cones scattered everywhere. It was a sight to relish. Astonishingly funny part was that lazy me didnt feel like having a wink at all. Lectures, intellectual games followed by sport and dance activities and then strolls on the lake side. people gay and happy, chilled out; and amazingly interactive ...I felt portkeyed to a beautiful world....

people would wear anything and nothing and yet wouldnt get second stares.... showing affection was suddenly not a scandel and emotions like frustration and stress didnt seem to exist...



In the next few days we also practiced and then performed on Indian Cultural Night... the dance and fashion shows were greatly applauded and appreciated.....lights, audience and hooting...it was my fantasy..something my college didnt give me; something I longed for eons and eons



In this part of Russia even the sun refused to set as if it too did not want to lie down ; we experienced the most amazing white nights. Along with these, the sight of a brightly colored orange crescent stole my breadth every single night..........



On the nineth day, I found my superly beautiful journey coming to an end..yet the the gorgeous images were intactly etched in my heart on my mind.



Today getting again engrossed in the the daily ebb and flow of life , the dreamy world still lingers softly around me and once more I have started believing that stuff like fairy tales do exist you only need to find this stuff.................!!

Internship, poetry and free time

yup thats right!!! I land with an internship where just googling is required, and ended up exploring and imploring my creative side. So here is a partial peek into my introspective world..! :P

WINNING
Win if u must,
Win someone’s love; for there is beauty in irrational equations of love
Win over vanity; for you ought not to forget the battles u lost
Win over friends; for true friends are rarer than rarest of jewels you bought
Win over the deep sunken guilt; for you realized you learnt your lesson well
Win over your hidden fear to fly; for only then you explore the eternal boundless sky

Lose if you must;
Lose your inhibitions,
Go throw your caution;
Fulfill your passion;
For then u surely will win a life of contentment……..