A few Good Men

Me: (asking the tenth auto wala in half an hour): Bhaiya, Pusa

Autowalla: Baithiye

Me: :O... Kitna loge

Autowalla: Meter

Me: :O ... acha

He stops his auto, comes out, helps in keeping my luggage.

On the way....

Autowalla: yeh jo saamne auto khade the, kitna le rahe the

Me: 180 rupai <*double the amount*> and baakiyon ne mana ker dia..

Autowalla: pata tha mujhe..yahi log dilli ke autoes ko badnaam kerte hay..pata nahi auto kyu chalate h jab savari ko nahi le jaana hota...

Madam! maine aj tak kissi be savari ko mana nahi kia...n main Bihar ka hoon..yahi log Bihariyon ko b badnam kerte hay...

Me: :O..hmmmm...

I sit silently pondering a few good men do exist.....

ps: he was actually funny to watch too. He stopped his auto just to click photograph of a group of peacocks and peahens!! and also bowed his head while passing by a Temple...

pps: n yea i asked him...bhaiya main ap ki phto le loon..mujhe blog main daalni h!!!

Autowalla: :O....!!

DIRTY Picture!!!really?!!

Vidya Balan has a belly which could give Adnan Sami's belly (read the -before-diet-image) a competition, the actors have looks which could make Ranvir Shorey look handsome, the script has dialogues which could embarrass family people, Storyline "Fashion" retold with a sorry ending.....yet the movie somewhere struck a chord...somehow it made me forget my cussing for IIT Delhi and its life...somehow it evoked hope against hope....somehow it inspired me to dream and believe...............and above all somehow it made me laugh to an extent of hurting my stomach muscles!!!

It is one hindi movie which I could recommend to my parents despite all its flaws because it taught me the following (through the most comical and sarcastic dialogues and their apt timings....)

1. Be real but do not forget to dream..............

2. Life is not hard but u can make it with ur reactions

3. It reminded me that I am still 22 and I have my whole life in front of me to experiment learn and succeed.....

4. It gave me food for thought to ponder upon which is alwayz a cliche but still I never realized it: Believe in your self when no one else does; never feel lonely when u are alone coz u have urself wid u; u might initially make mistakes in makin friends but do not regret coz they won't make it to ur future; and actually never regret any mistake.......

In short

Dream, Desire and Devote all your time, vigor and optimism to it

ps....never judge a movie by its trailer!!:PP

pps... emran hashmie breaks his characteristic record by kissing less number of times than vidya and i am talkin about smooches!!:PP

Tempest....(Random musings part 2) :PP

Prisms broken
illusions shattered
miasma shrouds
hope bows down
two strings to hold
one fate to savor
one struggle to go
wont let it go
swinging swaying
whirling around
last crumbs allude
countdown down
fallling glory glorified drowning
crumpled content
illusions quelled
burnt sepia ashes arise
botttomless abyss guised
flummoxed, asphyxiated shuddered I
agitated, retaliated, halted, numbed, sighed......

Random Musings...

 I have always been fascinated with anything related with investigation/mysteries/figuring out something. I guess we all are at some level, it all depends on our level of curiosity and as I am an extremely inquisitive person (maybe nosy sometimes, but only with my closed ones ;) this field has always been a kind of personal favorite.
Infact if I would have studied abroad and had options to choose from the infinite number of courses, I would have definitely taken up subjects like criminal psychology and forensic sciences in my curriculum. (will take up my fascination with Guns in other post, as some may find that or me scary *straight face* )

Well, agreed that the picture we see in TV/Movies or read in books is surely made glamorous and romanticized, but isn't there always an excitement in solving something. There is always a new case, new process of thinking, new beginnings, new findings in the lives of people who work in this area. I can imagine how there cannot be a feeling of mundaneness coming into their lives. Or maybe it is not just related to this field only, anybody can find their kinds of problems and choose a profession in which he/she has the pleasure to not just work on them, but be so involved  in that work that it feels exciting and charged up to go to work every morning ( Dragging yourself off the bed is a huge task everyday, especially in winters.. I completely empathize with people who do that :p )

In my quest of still discerning my interest in the work that I want to do, I now atleast have an idea of what I don't want to... Still, I want to be able to do get up all enthused to go to work, with even half the level of excitement that we used to have in our childhood about the next day "picnic". Also it would have to be the icing on the cake, to get a nice return so that the weekends can be all about shopping and splurging ;)

Don't you want to really enjoy your work? Or the money alone can keep you satisfied?




P.S - Here is a video that might be of some interest if you are a Lie to me, Castle, House, Bones, CSI Fan ;) or even a little interest in human psychology http://www.ted.com/talks/pamela_meyer_how_to_spot_a_liar.html?awesm=on.ted.com_Meyer&utm_campaign=&utm_medium=on.ted.com-static&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_content=awesm-publisher

P.P.S.- I have exams lined up for me, so posts may not be that frequent. Still don't ditch us ;)

The Perfect Pose and Poise!

Hey it's been so long!! Now I have decided that instead of writing long posts( which have to be planned), I will try to write whatever is going on in my head so as not to be absent for so long..

Today I saw Fatima Bhutto's interview at CNBC. I had seen her speech at Sydney's writers fest earlier, but today I was even more impressed by her charisma! She is the estranged niece of Benazir Bhutto, who lives in U.K and is vocal about the destructive politics happening in Pakistan.

You actually come across a handful of individuals who posses beauty with brains(I definitely do not find every second girl easy on the eye as some of my guy friends do :P). So coming back to Fatima, her speech was frank, spoken with style and aplomb which only true leaders posses, with excellent command over english, and if I were a guy I could have spend the time by just gazing at her.. ( I can imagine the jokes I may have to suffer for this line, but the truth is for all to see ;)

Also she shared my views on Pakistan, I guess she was speaking only the truth. She starts with facts and figures about Pakistan, degrading political situations, terrorist activities and gave the real picture.
Well there are very few people whom I start admiring so easily, and she is now in my list. In her interview she exuded positive aura, with her elegant smile in place and gave the perfect answers.

After that and some time spent(or wasted :-l) googling about her, I now have 2 books on my list of "Want to read" books ( 8:50 a.m. and Songs of Blood and Swords... The "should read" list is another story( which often remains forgotten)

Anyways, here is the link of her impressive speech for those of you in whom I generated an iota of interest Fatima Bhutto's Speech :)
Cheers,
Shaily

A chocl8 a day keeps stress at bay

Think of the best antioxidants you've ever heard of.

Red wine?

Green tea?

Pomegranate?

Blueberries?

well, Dark chocolate leaves them all in the dust.

Chocolate" comes from the Aztec word, "xocolatl," which means "bitter water."

so here are a few chocolicious facts which will leave you completely salivating ....!!

One ounce of baking chocolate or cocoa contains 10% of the daily recommended intake of iron.

Anaemic anyone??!:P

Cocoa beans are rich in a number of essential minerals, including magnesium, calcium, iron, zinc, copper, potassium and manganese.

Quality dark chocolate contains flavonoids which help reduce the risk of heart disease....

Chocolate is associated with the release of serotonin, the hormone that makes you feel relaxed, calm, and happy......

Although not scientifically proven, chocolate is believed by many, to be an aphrodisiac. The theory is supported by the fact that chocolate does contain among many chemicals the stimulants: caffeine, theobromine, and phenyethylamine.....(now u noe wat do u need after a bad fight ;))

Despite being high in fat content, chocolate doesn't appear to raise blood cholesterol levels.

Chocolate manufacturers currently use 40% of the world’s almonds and 20% of the world’s peanuts.....!!

so i guess its true when they say...A little of what you fancy does you good...!!!

bon Appetit!!!!:)

IT'S TIME TO UNFURL THE RAGE!!

 “Please keep your mobile on Manmohan Mode”

 If you live in, near or even know the current happenings in India, then you can definitely understand the above punchline. It is telling that such quotes have become a bitter way of explaining the current Indian affairs. India is known as the world’s largest democracy, but the current government has repeatedly behaved as a monarch when the matters have gone out of their hands. It has already made mockery of democracy by holding people protesting non-violently in jail, ending a hunger strike to ‘Bring back the black money’ by world renowned yoga guru using extreme force and prior to that the silence of our prime minister and no valid explanation given for the unending corruption scams. 

The government is steering a ship which has sprung many leaks. Yet, the simple concept that one cannot establish democracy unless the government respects people’s rights eludes it. By ignoring the public in the haste of filling their own Swiss accounts, the politicians have fuelled this rage and fervor.  Today as I passed through India Gate, I saw throngs of people on bikes, cars, on foot waving Indian flags, with passion on their face and anger in their hearts. The picture is enough to guess that all is not well in India. It has been estimated that there is almost $1500 billion in black money in the Swiss banks, 13 times the foreign debt that India owes! It is enough to tell all about the plague of corruption in India. Infact, India would have been a developed country years before and at par with China and America now, if our politicians had been somewhat ‘honest’, a word missing from their lexicon.

The fastest growing sector in India is not IT or software, textiles or automobiles. It is INEQUALITY that has grown faster than at any other time since Independence. And at a sensational pace, this past decade as the divide between the rich and the poor has constantly widened.

So after all the facts and figures I cannot find it in my heart to say that India still shines and remains incredible because of its rich culture and diversity. The culture doesn’t give people protection, Diversity doesn’t help if India houses a third of the world’s poor! A nation where terror attacks occurs almost every year. And the appalling thing is that they have become so clichéd that nobody now bats an eye if less than 50 people die in a calamity. How can then we still revel in past and be smug about our heritage, when the future of the nation is jeopardized?

It is time for a change to help India reach the pinnacle it truly deserves by utilizing all the incredible resources and manpower. We have to demand the answers from the regime as the Father of the Nation said- To do Injustice is a Sin- but to Tolerate Injustice is a bigger Sin. And one man is doing exactly that! 

A few may say that you cannot blackmail the government like this, but when the Govt. pushes beyond a certain limit, it has no right to criticize...I believe every Indian supports the motive and intention behind HAZARE's Fast, and hoping for a change... 

I salute the man with all due respect!

P.S.- Have you read this?  http://news.sky.com/home/politics/article/16056344  Do you think Indian Govt. has guts to do this.. Oh but how can they! Aren't we talking about their own hidden stashes here.. :-?

“I was ready to experience corporate culture in one of the most sought after textiles based consultancies in India”

MY SUMMER TRAINING..!!
Packed with bubbling energy, first day jitters, and a whole gamut of complex emotions, I was geared up for my first day at Technopak Advisors Private Limited. Selected amidst 50+ students of my department, I knew I was ready to experience corporate culture in one of the most sought after textiles based consultancies in India. I always had great expectations and the company just never proved me wrong.The people were highly cordial and helpful, atmosphere was stress free and remarkably work oriented. It was like a dream woven with ambitions.Amongst many rules, one rule was inadvertently followed (from which even we were not spared) : Always address people by their first names, be it the Director or the President!I was assigned a mentor who was just one year elder to me. She gave me concrete assignments to work on in live projects which exposed me to the retail sector and helped me understand nuances of handling and analyzing data. Apart from this, the working hours were extremely flexible as the emphasis was always on the output and delivery.
The excitement of being at the forefront of this output, and being in a position to bring about business breakthroughs for the client companies clearly made my internship a memorable experience and a learning adventure!

My article was selected as the daily winner in a contest at internshala.. ! :D
http://blog.internshala.com/2011/08/summer-internship-story-daily-150811/

LOVE YOU FOREVER.......... :))

HE IS BACK!!!!

'He' is my brother, who was in the U.S. for past one year, doing his M.S(still 6 months left)...but now he is visiting for 20 days..and you bet I am excited!! :)

There is this saying "You'll never realize the importance of something until it's gone", BUT it doesn't apply for me in this case... I always knew the value of my big brother (even though I didn't tell him then :P)... And also they say "Brothers and Sisters Share A Unique Bond Of Love, Comradery, and Friendship" to which I wholeheartedly agree.

I remember from the time we were kids and did crazy stuff, like he taught me how to jump from the bed when I was 3 or 4(I fell and bruised my lips- he got a scolding) or I bit him around that age (I got a scolding). He broke my electric dinosaur that Papa bought from Sweden, I complained to Papa, he got furious with my brother's 'always trying to be a scientist and dismantling things' attitude and bro got a thrashing (I cried for him at that time). Hundred other memories like he bought my first phone, always scolding me for wasting hours on the phone, always being there to solve my Maths and Physics problems, encouraging me to do something worthwhile and not waste my time, teaching me and explaining the concept when I used to panic a day before the exam, giving the BEST ADVICES- which sometimes I followed and most of the times Not *straight face*, never Interfering- always SUPPORTIVE, fighting for me with Papa when he was overprotective and unreasonable, giving me 25% of his salary on my BIRTHDAY's!(Lalalala, I have the BEST BROTHER - I know :P )
And so many other things for which I never said Thank You!( I guess he doesn't need that, but I am still so much Thankful! )

Words aren't enough to express how much he means to me (though have tried it here)...And you know I cried so much when in eighth class Papa shifted my study table(his and mine were adjoining- maybe so I can get inspired) from his room as he was in 12th and needed to study seriously, apparently I used to disturb him (ME!! The most innocent child! :p He used to start all the fights, how did I disturb him!). So you can imagine my plight, when he hopped on the flight and went away so far... (read it as Saat Samundar Paar ;)

It was just AWE(wait for it)SOME!! to grow up with someone like you - someone to lean on, someone to count on... someone to tell on!
And now it is time to cheer cos he is here! :)
So again, I AM SO PROUD OF YOU! 
             n LOVE YOU FOREVER... :))



P.S.- Hoping he would get senty after reading this ;) (It is not unmanly to show emotions u know :P)

P.P.S.- I wish this to be a quote dedicated to me, from him..lol! It's just a quote that I liked - “She is your mirror, shining back at you with a world of possibilities. She is your witness, who sees you at your worst and best, and loves you anyway. She is your partner in crime,your midnight companion, someone who knows when you are smiling, even in the dark. She is your teacher, your defense attorney, your personal press agent, even your shrink. And on some days, she's the reason you wish you were an only child.” -Barbara Alpert
And also this one "“What's the good of news if you haven't a sister to share it?” -Jenny DeVries :)

LET IT GO......

Hey! So hope all of you are preparing to enjoy the upcoming holidays and getting ready to binge on all the sweets (and add a few kilos to your waistline. *evil laugh*) 

So coming back to the point, just ask yourself a simple question "Do you hold grudges?". If the answer is biased in the favor of yes, then it is time to retrospect. If you don;t know how.. then you can try by asking yourself a series of questions like 'Has it done you any good', ' Has it spoiled your mental peace', 'Do you get angry whenever you think about that person' (Note- I am talking about a personal grudge here and not with an animal or some non-living thing, which you just can't help it- e.g if a dog bites you in your childhood and you end up hating dogs... story of my life :-l )

But as a proud ' Never a grudge holder', take it from me a grudge DOES YOU NO GOOD!
It is not only harmful to your mental peace, but it keeps you in the clutches of anger and noxious thoughts. The anger can even make you do regrettable things. So do you really want to carry that much negative energy with you? I don't!!


I have two solutions which always help me out... And they are extremely effective ( That's a personal guarantee :) )

Sometimes you just cannot forget what others have done to you. In serious crimes, the victim obviously has every right to feel all the anger and rabid thoughts swirling in his/her mind. But I do have a better solution - POSING INDIFFERENCE!

There are some situations in life when you feel helpless, you cannot retaliate back to the perpetrator and you have to accept the things as they are. And that is why being indifferent helps! It is called the state of emotionlessness, to the point that you detach yourself from the situation, person - whatever helps. It is not easy, but needs practice and it helps you not to think about anything related to that person, go on with your life in a peaceful way, helps you in finding your own happiness and being a positive person.

The second solution is what you may have heard many times, and hope you do apply it all the time- FORGIVENESS!
I reserve this only for a few- people for whom I care, and  I know in my heart that the mistake wasn't done intentionally. It was probably just the circumstances. And that the other person genuinely cares about me and is really sorry and repentant. I do the best thing you can do- I FORGIVE. Period.

In life, sometimes strangely you can also move on from the first option to the second if the person has/had a value in your life... And you try to be a little understanding of his/her reasons for his/her actions. I have put my faith in someone recently because of that strong connection with the person. And I am hoping for a happy journey.

Hence it's no good to hold a grudge with a person whom you love. And it's only harmful for you to hold a grudge with a person for whom you don't care! Finally,  I would say just one thing 'Let it go...'. It makes you happy and exuberant and most of all LIBERATED! :) 


P.S - And before I forget here is my free advice on Rakshabandhan - * For Girls* - It's YOUR day, don't go easy on your brother's pocket ;)
*For Boys*- Come on! Have a big heart, Give your sweet sister all the gifts you can afford :D And if anybody doesn't have a sister to shower the gifts, feel free to contact me :p

P.P.S- You can listen to this beautiful song (Do pay attention to the lyrics) from Zindagi Naa Milegi Dobara- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rhXYH1L79hk&feature=related while reading the post :)

Don't ask the meaning of Life...Just Go and Define It!!

Ever tried getting drenched in the rain but didn't because of your new, spick and span jeans???????

Ever felt like standing up for yourself but just didn't because you were not ready for the situation???????

The point is never wait for things to happen. You are the creator of your destiny... you are THE child of destiny.............YOU DEFINE YOUR DESTINY...

Just go for the thing what you feel is right at that moment. Stand up against the guy who is rude to the elderly beside you....ask the shopkeeper for a printed receipt.......go for wacky streaking of your hair...........go for tattooing at the weirdest body part....dance and hop in the rain...laugh and howl at the worst joke you have heard......do it because your heart screams at you to do it ......

ps.....Do it now since as you grow older you start carrying baggage with you... baggage of job, baggage of being diplomatic to the shrewdest and most wicked ppl, baggage of dressing professionally, baggage of not being able to speak the truth because your own organization is involved.....!

Do it now since when you wake up next morning you can look at yourself in the mirror with pride, an air of individuality and no regrets because you did precisely what you wanted to do at that moment...!

one black sheep..

"DPS MMS", "IIT Delhi student commits murder" and now...IIT Delhi fresher commits suicide

If the names of the institutions associated would not have been this prestigious, surely the headings would be:

School students create MMS, Engineering student commits murder, Fresher commits suicide

Why do we gain sadistic pleasure when we see prestigious institutes and people falter and fail.

Is it because it is satisfactory that even the most successful can make mistakes so the lesser mortals obviously can go around faltering and committing crime with less guilty and even less conscience.

Is it because we envy them and are just delighted to see their downfall.

The television news and print media exploit this basic mentality of human nature and obnoxiously sideline all other, probably more important news, to gain high TRPs and popularity; sometimes not even trying to go into root causes and creating cock and bull stories to feed and give flames to this growing appetite..

RESULT: The Indian society so notorious for hush-hush, at-your-back gossip starts viewing all the students of the concerned institute in the same light. I have seen uncles and aunties coming to my home when I was going to DPS and in a very muted tone asking my parents whether they haven't heard about the MMS scandel. Fortunately my open minded parents understand and handle these situations very well. But millions don't and I have seen, felt, observed and smelled it.

I just want to stress upon one thing :

There might be a few Black Sheep. Please do not paint the whole institute with the same stroke and brush...

Next AIM- To turn all the lemons into a tasty lemonade!

The time has come to introduce myself. I am the other half of this blog (the silent partner till now..) U can read the introduction about me( My other partner is too lazy to write an introduction for herself :P). Nyways I felt the need and urge to write and here I am in all my glory..  

As my summer hollidays are cumng to an end.. I luk back at the past 2 mnths and realize that working on sumthng that u enjy does fill u with a sense of worth, it gives u pleasure when u complete a task(even though at that time u may crib about why am I the only one doing all the work in a team) but the sense of accomplishment afterward makes u feel grt!!

Okay, I shudn't lead u on nymore.. I didn't do sumthng big yet(like clearing an entrance type big) but still it made me happy and my summer vacations worth it! It was a simple thing actually, I just designed a newsletter for an NGO, and now am working on another one.. The newsletter turned out pretty well, and ergo I am pretty pretty pleased with myself . For the first time I did sumthng useful ( Sum stpd people might disagree on how useful it was, but hey don't u dare spoil my aura :P) other than sitting at home, watching movies, reading buks in my vacations( though that was a gud pastime for the last 2 yrs but it's called 'pastime' for a reason).

I have so many things that I want to do now.. and also I regret the time wasted.. I cud have done so many things!! Like I really wanted to participate in a MUN..but alas! the idea to actually search for it came frm a close frnd( I will give her a nickname soon as she may be mentioned in my posts frequently) when she told me about a MUN happening yesterday. And now is my last year in college( Thank God! Take my advice- research before u enter the rat race of entrances after 12th! U wud hate to end up doing a subject u dislike for 4 yrs! ) and I want to have back the things I lost.. I lost the ability to study seriously ( I can blame it on - I hate the subjects, but nobody will listen to me professionally.. ) So instead of crying out and doing nthng, I think I will give it my all and then have no regrets.. I just lost the enthusiasm in studies, dnt knw how and why.. but the time to suck it up has come.. And I am happy to get the lost feeling back within me!! I feel energised, I feel pumped up! ( Never knew 1 mnth of dng sum 'work' wud change me :-l )  But yaa, I am ready to take on the WORLD!! ( and the shitty things it will give :)   And I promise not to get disheartened now.. As the most rehearsed saying goes.....IF u have the WILL, U will FIND A WAY....

Life larger than life

Was there anytime when you felt you were in your dream world, when you felt like living in a fairy tale; even if just for a moment..



I lived a fairy tale for a full 9 days duration; the beginning was not exactly a fairy tale sort minus the forest scenario!! and a point of difference to be noted here is that my fairy tale didnt require a prince..It didnt require a hero (although there were many suitable options!!;) ).................



The bus stopped near lake Selger (Russia)..we with our wobbly sleep deprived eyes, reached our tents exhausted and tired. The bus journey was a full long 8 hours after a long flight...and slowly the magic swirled itself open...beautiful spacious tents amidst exquisite pine and fir trees. Cones scattered everywhere. It was a sight to relish. Astonishingly funny part was that lazy me didnt feel like having a wink at all. Lectures, intellectual games followed by sport and dance activities and then strolls on the lake side. people gay and happy, chilled out; and amazingly interactive ...I felt portkeyed to a beautiful world....

people would wear anything and nothing and yet wouldnt get second stares.... showing affection was suddenly not a scandel and emotions like frustration and stress didnt seem to exist...



In the next few days we also practiced and then performed on Indian Cultural Night... the dance and fashion shows were greatly applauded and appreciated.....lights, audience and hooting...it was my fantasy..something my college didnt give me; something I longed for eons and eons



In this part of Russia even the sun refused to set as if it too did not want to lie down ; we experienced the most amazing white nights. Along with these, the sight of a brightly colored orange crescent stole my breadth every single night..........



On the nineth day, I found my superly beautiful journey coming to an end..yet the the gorgeous images were intactly etched in my heart on my mind.



Today getting again engrossed in the the daily ebb and flow of life , the dreamy world still lingers softly around me and once more I have started believing that stuff like fairy tales do exist you only need to find this stuff.................!!

Internship, poetry and free time

yup thats right!!! I land with an internship where just googling is required, and ended up exploring and imploring my creative side. So here is a partial peek into my introspective world..! :P

WINNING
Win if u must,
Win someone’s love; for there is beauty in irrational equations of love
Win over vanity; for you ought not to forget the battles u lost
Win over friends; for true friends are rarer than rarest of jewels you bought
Win over the deep sunken guilt; for you realized you learnt your lesson well
Win over your hidden fear to fly; for only then you explore the eternal boundless sky

Lose if you must;
Lose your inhibitions,
Go throw your caution;
Fulfill your passion;
For then u surely will win a life of contentment……..

hey this is me...!

Ummmm here goes my first post…..(from the supposedly impuzlive and drama queen and obviously these are understatmentz….!!)

My philosphy :

1. Life is a big roller coaster . The very time u think u r rising u are on the verge of falling and vice versa. But it is also true that it forewarns u about every single thing . Just the very time when u think u have lost something u gain sumethin invaluable and jus when u think life is perfect something unexpected happens …that’s exaclty life's way of teaching . It doesn’t have a chalk and board to explain us but it gives us good fat experiences for each earthly pearl of wisdom.

2. I remember a quote from Terry Pratchet . It says : when u die you whole life passes in front f u . It is called living.

Live for a reason -this is my motto. And it can be anything -happiness, revenge just anything. All my life I have been a hard worker whose sole happiness lies in the material things and I do not regret it . It is not that I don’t love my friends and family but I love achieving success in material things of life. You may call me greedy but I term it as my desire. Some yearn for love some for lust I yearn for success and I cant help it.

3. Never let go of things and people you value in life. There are a few things in life- my family, best friends, my childhood dresses and my books!.. I wont exchange them for all the money in the world .

DNA is the least of what joins a family and I stand firmly by this saying. My best friends are someone u can die for literally and I am blessed to have them. So I adjust(normally they do and occasionally I !) learn, cooperate and if needed , fight for them….because they are the reason for my existence today…;)